Saturday, February 22, 2014

Not an Expert, or a WIZPERT




Quite a few months ago I received an email from CEO of "Wizpert," Michael Weinberg, stating that my blog may be a good fit for giving out "live" marriage/parenting advice to strangers who could connect to me through Wizpert via Skype chat. The "Wizperts" get paid for their advice after passing a trial period.

At first I thought it was a scam. I get plenty of spam and scam emails asking for this or that, and so I deleted it. But Mr. Weinberg sent a follow up email two weeks later, and my curiosity piqued.

I began to Google and saw that other bloggers were indeed adding a little blue Wizpert button to their blogs, advertising that they were qualified as experts in their field. They could connect with someone needing their particular advice through Wizpert, remain anonymous and eventually earn money for their time.

It's a novel idea, actually. And although I'm just now seeing it catch on, it could easily become the next "thing" in the world of blogging. Time will tell.

The problem for me is, I don't have time to give advice to people who may wish to connect for an "advisory" chat. I barely have time to shower. Or eat. I don't even have time to blog more than a few times a month, and I usually write in the middle of the night after waking up because of a foot cramp or needing to get up to use the bathroom.  Just look at how long it took for me to write this post. If I can spend time chatting with and advising my own kids, then I consider that pretty successful.

But I do have marriage advice to offer,  and if you care to read it, I will give it to you here FOR FREE!

Of course there are details and intricacies, there are studies and habits to work on. There is love and trust to build. But these are the very foundational basics.

Christian marriage requires submission by both partners; the husband to Christ, the wife to her husband.
~Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." (Ephesians 5:21-24)

Husbands should care for and honor their wives.
~Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her  to make her holy, cleansing  her by the washing with water through the word,  and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.  In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.  After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—  for we are members of his body.  “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”    This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.  However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:25-33)

~Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker sex  and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. (1 Peter 3:7)


Wives should respect their husbands and exude an inner beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit.
~Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,  when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.  Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.  Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. (1 Peter 3:1-4)

Keep the relationship growing.
~Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. (Ephesians 4:2)

~“In your anger do not sin” : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,  and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26, 27)

~Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. (James 1:19)

Stay faithful.
~Do not commit adultery. (Exodus 20:14,

~May your fountain be blessed, and may you delight in the wife of your youth....— May her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. (Proverbs 5:18, 19)

Wives are to be help meets for their husbands.
~And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an
 help meet for him. (Genesis 2:18)


Yup. Those are the very basic formulas for a successful Christian marriage.

Crack open the Bible and you'll get a lot of relationship and parenting advice- for free! No "self-help" books needed.

And the best part is, 


God is always available for a chat.

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